Break the Silence's relocation program aims to provide safe emergency accommodation and specialist support to anyone including children who are escaping domestic abuse, often vulnerable or disabled people have various support needs, including those with mental illnesses and substance misuse issues. Each individual case will be assessed and a tailored care plan written up if required. We will do our best to find you emergency accommodation and take into account any individuals’ that have high support needs. We will assist in finding safe accommodation through the local authority, refuges, hotels or in other hostels. Many refuges or emergency accommodations do not take referrals for male victims but we should be able to find alternative accommodation for men and their families. Where it would be unsafe for a family to stay locally we will do our best to find suitable alternative accommodation elsewhere or through the refuge national support network. The effects of emergency relocating often means families escaping domestic abuse are left with nothing but the clothes on there backs, this fund helps with essentials and items for children as well as ongoing supplies until they are able to self sustain.  

Leaving an abusive relationship

Often for women who leave an abusive relationship, 60% cited the main motivator to be the fear that they, or their children, would be killed by their partner (Humphreys & Thiara 2002). However leaving a partner does not guarantee that the abuse will stop; the risk of serious assault is greatest at the point of separation, with 76% experiencing post-separation abuse (Lees 2000; Humphreys & Thiara 2002). Normally there are two options, firstly staying in the home and getting the abuser to leave and secondly leaving the home and relocating. 

Employment and housing

Domestic violence can also have detrimental impacts on employment leading to victims taking more time off work and risking being fired. For instance, one survey found that of those who experienced domestic abuse in employment, 21% of women and 6% of men took time off and 2% of both women and men lost their jobs because of the abuse (Walby & Allen 2004). Break the Silence will work with you and your children to relocate or stay within your home. 

Domestic abuse has also been found to be the “single most quoted reason for becoming homeless” (Cramer & Carter 2002) and a study by Shelter found that 40% of homeless women cited domestic abuse as a contributor to their homelessness. In addition half of local housing authorities have seen domestic abuse related homelessness significantly increase (Morley et al 2002).

Seeking help

Research has suggested that half of those experiencing domestic abuse will tell a family member or friend about the relationship. However, many victims decide to stay and live with domestic abuse in silence. There are multiple reasons why victims choose to minimise the abuse they experience and avoid telling professionals and/or seeking help.

Some people seek help through G.P.s and other professionals if they don’t wish to call the police. Some health professionals carry out routine questioning about domestic abuse and many victims find this helpful. Break the Silence will offer a full IDVA service from start to finish, helping and advising on all aspects of your experience. We and our peer group are personally experienced with abuse, covert and physical - you will be believed.

Why do you stay?

  • The consequences of domestic abuse on mental health, self esteem and emotional well-being may inhibit the victim’s ability and confidence to make life-changing decisions.      
  • The victim may be in love the perpetrator, and therefore does not want to leave the relationship and hope that the perpetrator will stop being abusive.      
  • The victim may be ashamed and/or feel they are to blame for provoking the abuse.      
  • There may be significant financial gains in staying with the perpetrator as the victim may be financially dependent on the perpetrator and worry about being not being able to adequately support themselves (and any children) alone.      
  • The victim may believe it is impossible to escape the perpetrator and become fearful that the perpetrator will track them down no matter where they hide.      
  • The domestic abuse may have isolated the victim from family and friends and restricted their public movements thereby reducing opportunities to receive help.      
  • The victim may wish to stay “for the sake of the children” in order to ensure children have access to two parents, wanting to avoid the social stigma of being a single parent.      
  • The victim may have limited English or be unaware of services that are available.

Please consider donating to this program by clicking on the donate button above. We also need essential's for when emergency relocation is required please email or telephone 01924 694900 to arrange drop off of items.